10 Wedding Day Myths

There are a lot of traditions out there and “rules” when it comes to weddings. I love and respect a great deal of those sweet wedding traditions but I also believe rules are meant to be broken and some of those myths need busting to set brides free! Today I’m busting 10 wedding day myths!

1) You Should Be Engaged For At Least A Year
-I am proof that this one is false false false! I was engaged for 2.5 months my friends and I still had a beautiful wedding and I didn’t miss out on a single thing because it was short. I’m not suggesting you should all have a 2.5 month engagement, but don’t be scared that you can’t plan a wedding in less than a year. With an open mind and kick butt vendors you absolutely can!

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2) There Needs To Be An Even Number Of Bridesmaids And Groomsmen
-Nonsense! The worst that can happen if it’s uneven is your wedding party photo won’t be perfectly symmetrical or you have to be a little creative when you bridal party walks down the aisle….that’s OKAY! Choose those important people you want standing next to you because they are exactly who you want, not because you’re trying to be symmetrical. That just doesn’t make sense.

3) You Need An Official Wedding Venue
-You want to get married on a mountain? Get married on a mountain! You want to get married on a cliff overlooking the ocean? DO IT!! Does your parent’s backyard hold special meaning to you? Have a backyard wedding! Pictured below is Anne and Jon’s wedding that took place in her parents yard with the beautiful Blue Ridge mountains in the background. Get creative! The sky is the limit!

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4) Wedding Favors Are A Must For Your Guests
-If you’re stumped on wedding favors and don’t know what to do, consider making a donation to your favorite charity instead. It is meaningful and will last longer than candy, candles or wine. If you’re going to be spending the money, why not put it toward something good!

5) “Wedding Colors” Must Be Established
-There is no rule that your wedding has to have an official color(s). Sure you want to have a theme, direction and a style you’re going for but that doesn’t mean you need to establish, let’s say, pink, as your color and incorporate it everywhere. Kate did an incredible job coordinating her bridesmaid dresses!

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6) Wedding Planners Are Only For The Wealthy
-Believe it or not, wedding planners can actually SAVE you money! They have connections with vendors and they live and breath the wedding industry meaning they have savvy money saving tricks you might not be aware of! Don’t immediately rule out a wedding planner because of budget, it’s definitely worth looking into!

7) A Sit-Down Dinner Is Required
-I’ve been to a wedding where they served an array of hor d’oeuvres all night long while guests mingled and danced. I’ve been to a wedding where they served breakfast food instead of dinner. I’ve been to a wedding where they had food trucks my friends!! I’m not saying don’t feed your guests, guests like food, but a formal sit down dinner isn’t the only option.

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8) Perfection Is The Goal
This is your wedding day and it will be one of the best days of your life, regardless of little mishaps here and there. Walk into your wedding day with the mindset that whatever happens, happens. You are here to get MARRIED and as long as you two say I do, I’d say that’s a pretty perfect day. Over the years I’ve had brides get mud on their dress, seen limos break down and unity candles that refuse to light and you know what? My couples just laughed, smiled and moved right along because they knew that those little details didn’t matter because they were getting hitched, baby!

9) You Have To Wait To See Each Other Until The Bride Walks Down The Aisle
-I think by now we all know this is simply not the case anymore! The majority of my couples are choosing to do a first look instead. They share a private moment to see each other before the ceremony allowing more flexibility to their day. I could go on and on about this, but that’s for another day. If you’re one for tradition and want to wait, that’s cool, too!

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10) You Have To Go Into Debt For Your Wedding
You absolutely DO NOT have to go into debt for your wedding. You have the rest of your lives to think about and setting yourself up for financial success starts with having a wedding budget. Stay within your means. A great tip is to splurge on a few vendors that mean the most to you and cut back in other places.

The takeaway here is that this is YOUR day and you can stick to or break the rules all you want, baby! Be creative, think outside the box or stick to tradition! It’s up to you!

Did I miss anything? Are there any other myths that need busting? Comment below and let me know your thoughts!

7 Comments

  1. by Becky on June 28, 2017  10:40 pm Reply

    Joelle! You are such a rad myth-buster! I love all the points you make here! SO GOOD! Keep up the great work, friend! xo

  2. by Christine on June 29, 2017  12:30 am Reply

    These are so great! I really love the advice about the wedding planner. They are so so crucial in my opinion. I always have wondered how to set up a wedding like in the middle of the mountains? Do you need a permit or just set up shop? How do you know if no one else is planning to get married in the same exact spot on the same day and time?

  3. by Johanna on June 29, 2017  1:48 am Reply

    LOVE these points. They are so true and what I tell all of my couples as well.

  4. by Katherine Evans on June 29, 2017  1:59 am Reply

    This Is just the best. AH! YES! I hope so many soon to be brides and grooms take comfort in these points!

  5. by Debra on June 29, 2017  5:09 am Reply

    You make such great points! I love how you can still have a traditional wedding with not-so-traditional practices, like with the engagement period. Weddings are definitely not one size fits all!

  6. by Marie Monforte on June 29, 2017  6:33 am Reply

    All these wedding-myths are spot on! I love when my couples have weddings that are as unique as they are! And yes to the planner - we ALL need wedding planners! hahaha!

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