Who Said Wedding Planning Has To Be Stressful

I don’t know about you, but I get pretty tired of hearing how stressful wedding planning is. Before you start taking steps to plan your wedding, you’re already told how stressful it’s going to be. That’s so unfair and trap number one! Here you are, newly engaged and bursting with excitement and yet you feel like you’re “supposed” to be stressed out with all this planning. Well my friends, I’m here to tell you that wedding planning doesn’t NEED to be stressful. This should be a FUN experience and that’s what I want for you!

Here’s my advice to keep you centered, grounded and happy while planning your wedding:

Photos of our wedding by the amazingly creative and talented Galleria Vivid

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Keep your priorities straight and remember WHY you’re getting married. Sometimes in this Pinterest crazed world I think we forget the whole reason for weddings; it is to actually get married. It’s those moments in front of your family and friends that you vow to be together forever, through it all. It’s not about the flowers, the music, the dress, and all those other details. No, it’s about marriage. I always tell my brides in my first meeting with them that if they ever start to feel overwhelmed or stressed out to remember this: even if you don’t have time for those special little details, even if you spill on your wedding dress, even if the colors don’t quite match or it rains…at the end of that day, you WILL be husband and wife. Hold onto the REAL reason for this day. Now, don’t get me wrong, I love a gorgeous dress, the little details, and overflowing bouquets, but more than that I love marriage. I want you to have both. I want you to plan the wedding of your dreams, have fun while doing it, and have a marriage that will stand the test of time.

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I planned my own wedding in less than 3 months from across the country and truth be told, I was not stressed. One of the blessings of a short engagement is there is no time to overthink anything. I fired through decisions or let other people make decisions for me and never looked back. The first venue I visited, I loved! Instead of going to visit each venue on my list I said, this is it! I visited with a florist that blew me away with her talents and ideas, boom done! Now that I can look back on the experience, I recognize why I enjoyed the process so much and can pass the advice on to you.

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Priority 1: Marry Alex. Priority 2: Make it beautiful. I knew at the end of the day, I was going to be Alex’s wife, regardless of the venue, dress or cake. Hold onto that feeling, my friends. Remember every detail you love about your future spouse and let that fill you up when you feel stressed. Imagine how much more enjoyable making your wedding decisions will be when you KNOW that by simply becoming husband and wife, you will already have the perfect wedding. If you thought I was going to give you a checklist to avoid stress or more practical tips, I’m sorry to have disappointed you. BUT what I did give you is REAL. Keep your eye on your marriage…every other detail is just icing on the cake.

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